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The Two Paths of F.E.A.R.

F.E.A.R. has two meanings, two paths. We have one mind, one heart. You know which way to go. All you have to do is listen to your heart to know what to do, and THEN go to your mind to figure out how to do it. “F.E.A.R. has two meanings: Forget Everything And Run or…

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The Upside to a Breakdown

Terra: I’ll bring fruit. Me: Great, my kids love fruit – they’ll go bananas! Yes, I am a woman who tells horrible Mom jokes. I’m also a woman who, at forty-two, is finally learning and living what it means to feel to heal. The above text exchange with my friend, Terra came from me asking…

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Alive, alive, alive, dead.

Good news, if you’re reading this, you’re not dead. Congratulations. 🥳  You’re breathing and alive. But are you living? Instead of being afraid of death, let’s shift our focus to living; being alive. Listen, we’re all afraid of death. And uncertainty. And especially, the uncertainty of death. Thing is, the uncertainty of death isn’t new. COVID…

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The Two Words to Help Check Yourself

Bite back. Those two words alone are enough to kick me into gear anytime Ego rears its head to stop me from doing anything risky, which is every time. Anything that has me show myself naturally causes Ego to wobble and shake. Ego doesn’t like that threat, not one bit. But, that’s why they’re called…

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Gold Digging Your Way to Clearer Decision Making From the Inside Out

5 minute read Let’s clear something up right out of the gate: Being decisive does not equal being difficult. For some reason, we have created a culture that usually pegs women who make decisions with confidence as being difficult; not playing for the team. We are selfish. We’re not considering everyone’s feelings. God knows that…

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The Key to Setting Bbbb…Yes, Boundaries

7 minute read Don’t be fooled. We’re all scared of boundaries. All of us. Because, in a nutshell, boundaries are associated with two aspects of the human condition that none of us like to face: disappointing others and not being liked. We’re told on a regular basis in an array of colorful language how imperative…

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Why Listening to Your Heart Doesn’t Sound Smart

5 minute read You’ve heard it a million times: follow your heart. It’s so cliché that you may dismiss it as a touchy-feely idealistic way of living your life. It sounds innocent and childish. It doesn’t seem smart because it’s not. Everything considered smart is contained, practical, and organized. It all comes from the left…

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You’re Doing it Wrong

2 minute read On days when I?m rolling deep at a level 1 vibration, my thoughts flood my brain like bats in the belfry. I’m revved up and feel like a raving mad Cruella De Vil. It’s an incredibly hot look, let me tell you. Sometimes this feeling catches me off guard, and other times…

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Good Times, Noodle Salad

2 minute read   There?s a scene in As Good As It Gets where Melvin Udall, Jack Nicholson?s character, is sitting across a restaurant table from Carol Connelly, Helen Hunt?s character, and he says ?You make me want to be a better man.?It stops her in her tracks and makes me cry every time. The…

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You So Crazy! (And Why That’s a Crazy Awesome Quality For Success.)

Crazy is what inspires. Crazy is who takes the chance and doesn’t listen to the naysayers. Crazy is who listens to their gut and has faith in the unknown. Crazy is what stokes the focus fire in our bellies and strengthens our commitment to why we do what we do. Crazy is who stays humble and does the work instead of needing to show their hustle.

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3 Ways to Kick Autopilot to the Curb

3 minute read Self-regulators, mount up! Not sure if you’ve noticed, but there’s been a crazy amount of heightened emotions flooding our mental space over the past few weeks. Some may say that it’s been going on for the past year and others will argue that it’s been going on since the beginning of time.…

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Your Lap of Luxury Goes WAY Beyond the Benjamins

5 minute read One of my sisters from another mister just returned home from an incredible two-week long cross country road trip. This wasn’t her first road trip rodeo. She’s done this drive many times over. There were the magical stomping grounds along the way (Badlands, anyone?) and family filled Boulder bbq’s like no other. The…

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A Notion to Keep Your Flow in Motion

2 minute read I have this little ritual of going down to my local corner store on Sunday mornings and buying the Sunday New York Times. (Pinkies up, baby!) If I’m lucky I finish it within a week. The depth of its content and the limit of my focus don’t agree. You ever pick up…

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How to Own It and Not Phone It In

2 minute read Do you need a little help owning who you are? Don’t be shy. It’s go time. We can all smell inauthenticity like blood hounds, right? It can feel frustrating, manipulative and offensive. We all fly into Mr. T mode of “pitying the fool” for making us look like one. Do you really…

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How Eavesdropping Will Save the World

3 minute read I’m gonna let you in on a little secret. There is something that you can start doing today to help significantly kick up your inspiration, curiosity, creativity, and empathy in one fell swoop… for freeeee. (I know, right??) Ready? Listen in. No, that’s it. Listen in. Observe. Be curious. Eavesdrop. I’m not…

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3 Ways to Give Doubt…Well, the Benefit

{3 minute read} I have a question for you: When you think of the word “doubt” what are some of the first words that come to mind? (think about it for a minute ) If you’re like me it falls somewhere between uncertainty, fear and Phillip Seymour Hoffman (who was incredible in the movie, Doubt).…

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5 Life Lessons From Animation

{4 minute read} In the past month I have cried at every single animated film I’ve watched. Every. Single. One. Storks – water works. Zootopia – flood gates. Brother Bear – forget it. Does this make me a pansy ass? Maybe. But (pointer finger raise), do I have a case? Definitely! Allow me! The hook…

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Resolution Revolution

{2 minute read} We all have issues with resolutions. Let’s be honest. All of these incredible sweeping promises of how we are going to better ourselves just ends up making us feel worse about ourselves. So, right out of the gate we’re setting ourselves up for failure. Job well done. I say, let’s forego resolutions…

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The Gift That Keeps on Giving

{3 minute read} We hear it every year, whether we like it or not. No, I’m not talking about “I Want a Hippopotamus for Christmas”. I’m talking tips on how to slow down so that we don’t get caught up and stung by the tentacles of the holiday cray cray. Sometimes we learn from years gone by. Mostly,…

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