It’s easy to fly through our days in a mental fog. There’s so much going on in our immediate environment, COVID, or not. Throw in a global pandemic, and it’s even easier to be camped out in our heads roasting imaginary S’ mores by the mental fire without even realizing it. I find that having mini internal anchors helps tremendously to be more conscious of what’s going on in my mind so that I can catch it before my thoughts start pitching a tent.
Since we see the world through a specific lens, don’t you want it to be one of your choosing instead of one that feels beyond your control? I thought so. You’re my kinda human. 😉
Asking the right questions is everything. My overall philosophy in coaching is that you have the answers inside of you; it’s my job to guide you to find them by asking the right questions. So, I wanted to extend that to you today.
Yesterday, I was putting together this beauty desk (above photo ) while listening to a fantastic talk by Dr. Joe Dispenza (author of Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, The Placebo Effect, and Becoming Supernatural). I combined two of his questions from different talks that you can think of as the bookends to your day. This exercise is geared at guiding you to be the person you choose to be, instead of the one who’s sleepwalking through life. Sleepwalking makes for funny dinner party stories and movie scenes, not daily life experiences.
Enjoy the exercise that follows:
Find a quiet place (your car will do), sit, and close your eyes.
Take two deep breaths and ask, “What is the greatest expression of myself that I can present to the world today?”
Sit for five to twenty minutes with eyes closed and see what version of yourself pops up. Chances are it’s the you that exudes buoyancy, aliveness, alertness, kindness, creativity, and strength. Who are you when you’re showing up as your best?
Then as you lay your head down tonight, ask yourself, “How’d I do?”
Be kind, compassionate, and curious with yourself as you take a few minutes to write down your response. It’s not about judging yourself, simply observing what pops up. One way to depersonalize the experience, to stay in curiosity over judgment, is to think of yourself like a science experiment. Notice what triggered you to go out of the “greatest expression” space and what possible serendipitous moments happened while you remained in it.
It’s a practice, and it doesn’t end until we do. The more you practice, the easier it is to catch yourself when you go back “to sleep” mentally so that you can course-correct to stay conscious and awake more and more. The more awake you are, the more you can continue to create meaningful work that will change our world for the better.