Wow. It’s been one heck of a week. We can get so swept up in the vicious news cycle or the emotional chaos that the holidays often bring that we often forget to pay attention to all the good that people are doing. But in those moments when we see or hear about the fantastic work by others, we take pause. We take a breath. We speak highly on other people’s behalf and shine a megawatt spotlight on their incredible contributions to the world. Why? Because it fills us with joy, hope, and inspiration.
So, why is it when we have ideas percolating or put them into action that we downplay them and struggle as we search in the junk drawer for batteries to shine even a mini flashlight on ourselves? It’s time we change our perspective on what we’re doing here. Pronto.
When we take the time to see the forest for the trees we realize that it’s not one tree that makes our mouths drop in awe of the beauty in the landscape that we see; it’s all of the trees together. When we begin looking at ourselves as each tree, then we can gain a better understanding that when we self-promote or advocate for ourselves, we are benefiting the whole.
Committing to helping ourselves inevitably helps everyone else.
And you know what else? When you focus on what lights you up, the trivial aspects of life that once riled you up begin to dissipate. If energy flows where attention goes then it’s high-time that we all start focusing on what makes us feel alive.
The holidays are a tricky time. They can be joyful one minute and emotionally draining the next. Make a point to keep a list nearby of at least ten things that keep you feeling present and alive so you have a quick go-to when the internal triggers take aim.
For now, as you continue in your week, and you are aware of talking yourself out of parking your butt down to work on that passion project or speaking up at that podium or shutting up and listening at that table, know that your brave moves are being cheered on behalf of all of us and they are the best gift you can give the world right now.
So, what do you say? Let’s vow to stop playing small out of fear because we need no more fear in the world. Chances are that when we look back on those moments in our lives when we talked ourselves out of “it” and didn’t take the chance, we’d do anything for a solid do-over. Whether that “it” is apologizing first or acting on that exciting idea, do something that pushes your growth buttons.
Let’s not wait until we’re delivered a harsh wake-up call and listen to the internal nudge that encourages us to carry up and away from the coulda, shoulda woulda mentality. Because what is the point of being inspired or kind if we’re not going to act on it? Inspiration begets more inspiration. Kindness begets more kindness Pausing begets more pausing.
As my own little nudge to you, one of my favorite, magical underrated movies called “About Time” is full of all of the above and love, love, love.
It reminds us of the precious commodity that is time and how becoming more aware of who we are and how we are spending our time is the best gift we can ever give ourselves and each other. It focuses on relationships between partners, parents, children, and friends and highlights in an incredibly moving way the beauty that is our shared human condition.
And, c’mon, Rachel McAdams and Bill Nighy in one movie? You can’t go wrong.
“I just try to live every day as if I’ve deliberately come back to this one day to enjoy it as if it was the full final day of my extraordinary, ordinary life.”– Tim Lake, the main character in About Time
Let me know your favorite scene, what you took away from the movie, and how you’ll apply it to your life. We’re in all this together.