You know how in movies there is more than one take per scene? It’s the rare actor (yes, even Meryl and Daniel have their days) who can nail it the first time through. They may rehearse and practice and for some reason they trip up. Their tongues gets tied. They freeze. They go blank.
Then do you know what they do?
Some take a quick break. Some throw a tantrum. Some laugh it off.
Either way, they regroup and move on. It’s their responsibility.
What if we started looking at mistakes like this? That we just need another take.
It’s right inside the word itself. “Mis-take.”
It’s just a missed take. Take 2. Here we go.
What if from here on out, whenever we make a mistake, instead of telling ourselves that we suck, we’re idiots, we’re not meant to roll with the big boys, we told ourselves that it was a mis-take?
Eased up a little bit.
It’s not about running wild with messing up and never getting it right.
It’s about reframing our mindset on them because they’re inevitable.
Shocker, I know.
Pay attention to the next time you flub a line in a presentation, don’t know the answer to a client’s question, misspeak at a meeting, or make a grammatical error in a email. (See what I did there?) It happens. A lot.
It’s all about how we handle it. Learn from it. Laugh at it (that’s a toughie) and then make a mental marker note: to take a break. Slow it down. Clear it out.
Then we’re way more likely to show up – physically and mentally. We are beyond willing to give another talk, face another client, save it as a draft.
We start to get it instead of it getting at us.
The chances are that when you listen or see someone make a mistake, your reaction to them is telling to how hard you are on yourself.
I’m banking on if I ever looked at a client, a friend, or God forbid, my kids, and said, “Oh, wow. Yeah, you do kinda suck,” that I would hear crickets from here on out. (Along with major cha-ching from lifelong therapy sessions for my grown children.)
So, why do we think it’s okay to do that to ourselves?
As counterintuitive as it sounds, when we practice forgiving or validating a little bit more when people make mistakes, chances are they’ll be less likely to make them in the future. You know what else may happen? You’ll start being kinder to yourself too. AND you know what else will happen? Your team, your family, and you, yourself, will start taking more creative chances. You’ll build up your resiliency to failure. It’s powerful stuff right there.
Go for a test run this week with how you deal with mistakes in your life. Whether they’re by you, a stranger, a client, or your kid, make a mental note of, It was just a mis-take.
Pay attention to how you react internally and externally.