How This One Go-To Question Keeps Me in Check

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The other day I was mid cuticle nibble, staring out the window lost in a worry when this question instantly snapped me back. I took a deep breath and regrouped. Yes, it was that easy. Which is why I want to share it with you.

Thanks to the lovely, Marie Forleo, this is is my go-to whenever I feel foggy or scared or confused or totally freaking out of this world overwhelmed. The results are pretty immediate… as long as you put the time in to answer it honestly.

The question is this:

How would you act if you were the best at what you do?

Now, I’m not talking maniacal rat races here. Not at all. That is, unless that’s how you define being the best. Which, wild guess, I’m thinking it’s not.

We all have our own metric for success. The sad truth is that the vast majority of us have never given ourselves the chance to figure out what that truly looks and feels like. Not what society tells us it should look like. Or our mom or neighbor or Facebook. But how you want it to look and feel.

So, what does it feel like? For me, it was ripping off an invisible straitjacket that I never knew I was even wearing.

I spent a lot of time with this one. I wrote it out. I visualized it. When I really took the time to ask myself what “my best” meant, to be honest, I was a little nervous. My ego had a field day breaking my chops on this one: Are you seriously writing this out right now? You’re such a sucker.

I had all these preconceived ideas that “the best” meant pressure and judgment and selfishness.

But did it? Well, kinda sorta. They were all present, sure. The difference was that I saw myself handling them all in a way that allowed me to keep doing the work that I truly believe in… instead of buckling at the knees and flying out of the nearest exit.

Once I sat with this idea, what I found was quite surprising.

The first few images that came to mind had nothing and I mean nothing to do with what I had thought “success” and “best” meant to me. If I’m being completely honest, the first thing I saw was myself continuing to feel truly satisfied every time I used my pineapple corer and absolute bliss standing barefoot over the kitchen sink sucking down cold pizza.

I know, right?

Then, once I got warmed up there was more…

I saw an overall deeply peaceful me with razor-sharp focus and crazy amounts of determination and resiliency. I saw myself simplify my values and continuously aim for quality over quantity in every single aspect of my life (except for brainstorming – brainstorming is the rare exception where quantity trumps quality 100% of the time).

Speaking of quality, know what else I saw? More quality time with my kids and husband. Smiling faces and laughter filling the air. I saw myself working for and with people who see the good in the world and are creating fresh ways to make it even better. I saw myself taking more walks in the woods and coming back feeling inspired and juiced up ready to roll. I saw myself sitting at my keyboard with my hands in a rhythmic flow pumping out honest and real work.

And when inevitable bumps arose? I saw myself handling the frustrations more strategically than emotionally. I actually felt my body slow down. Become more patient. Think things through. I saw the big picture and didn’t get bogged down by the details.

What didn’t make the cut?

  • Drowning in self-doubt
  • Mindless social media scrolling
  • Exhaustive people pleasing

So, what does this all mean?

That if you put in the time to answer this question honestly then you can have it be your port in the storm of uncertainty. And next thing you know, you will be living your best every damn day.

It’s absolutely necessary for us all to take responsibility to become our best so that we can shift the collective consciousness on its head and in the right direction once and for all.

If you’re willing to put in the work you will be able to wake up every day feeling inspired to clearly put your best into action for yourself, your loved ones, and all of us.

The time is now.

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